Below are a few very good resources to help you view your emotions as helpful tools rather than overwhelming problems. These authors fresh perspectives and practical skills to help us work with our emotions and reduce our reactivity and suffering.
Getting Unstuck: Breaking Your Habitual Patterns and Encountering Naked Reality
Don't Bite the Hook: Finding Freedom from Anger, Resentment, and Other Destructive Emotions (a Recorded Weekend Retreat) Pema Chodron
These are two of my favorite audio CD’s by Chodron who is a Canadian Buddhist nun who provides practical insight into ancient Buddhist wisdom laced with good-hearted humor. These two recordings are particularly helpful for working with addictive behaviors and our tendency to overreact to situations with outbursts of anger and impulsive actions.
Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life with the Heart of a Buddha
Brach is a meditation Teacher and therapist who provides examples from her clients and her own life of how much suffering we bring upon ourselves. She offers a Buddhist-based perspective and teachings that helps us release old pain, move through suffering into growth and healing, and more fully embrace the self and open the heart.
Judith Orloff, M.D.
Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself from Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life
Orloff is a psychiatrist and intuitive healer who blends neuroscience, psychology, and subtle energy awareness to explore more effective ways to work with and transform the effects of our most powerful and negative emotions. Her writing style is fairly accessible and includes personal anecdotes that help explain difficult concepts.